By: Billy

ahrunmc 1 month, 2 weeks ago on Twitter

this is a pretty funny article. http://bit.ly/4anbGG

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sixtyftqueenie 2 months ago on Twitter

http://artofmanliness.com/2008/01/16/stop-hanging-out-with-women-and-start-dating-them/

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Triphoppin 2 months, 3 weeks ago on Twitter

Stop Hanging Out With Women & Start Dating Them http://tinyurl.com/48xdfw

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Vaughn T Johnson 3 months ago on Wordpress

I’ve been an AoM reader for about three months now so this post was before my time so I just found it, but my god, sometimes you hit the nail right on the fricken head. I am 22 years old and at a point in my life were yes, I am still really just looking for a good time with a nice girl but am in no way closed off the idea of it developing into something more. With that said, I feel I have no fear of commitment.

I was recently faced with the decision to either “hang out” or “date” a girl and I, as part of my eternal quest to become a true man, elected for the date. Now I did the asking over the phone and I was very confident about it, but the interim conversations about where exactly she wanted to go (it was her Birthday so I let her choose) and the the subsequent request for her address happened via text message, and while it was all happening it did not occur to me that this might not be the most manly way to go about this but it was just so damn functional that I did it anyway. In the end the date went off without a hitch and all was well but I still question my use of text messaging.

One last comment, the line about a guy over the age 18 still telling a girl he likes her over Facebook needing to be punched in the face was perhaps the most elegantly written phrase I have read on this blog to date. Good work and great stuff! ... See all content Hide content

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Barb7983 3 months ago on Wordpress

Right on!

My son is 13, okay a little young to start “dating,” but I hope he catches on…I have been telling him (AND SHOWING HIM) how nice it is to hold doors open for people (especially women and senior citizens), saying, “please” and “thank you” and addressing adults as “sir” for men and “miss” or “ma’am” for women. Just little things like this will get “Gen Y” started in the right direction. I am not sure which “generation” I’m in…I was born in 1962 and the Boomer Generation goes until 1964, I think, but I don’t feel like a Boomer. I like the articles on AoM — very thought provoking and things for me to keep in mind while raising a son who will, I hope, find and date someone special within the next few years! ... See all content Hide content

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Darcie 3 months, 1 week ago on Wordpress

Thank you! Beautifully and simply put. If you haven’t already, would you write something for the ladies on how to say no without further contributing to mens’ aversions to asking us out?

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b 3 months, 3 weeks ago on Wordpress

@RANdomIZED

I don’t understand the whole “hard to get” thing. Either you like someone or you don’t, there’s no “game” about it. I don’t know what grade you’re in, so I can’t tell you exactly how it usually works in your grade. When you’re out of school, you date people to get to know them. You aren’t in a relationship yet, but if things go right eventually you move into one. In that case, you don’t have to hang out with her before you ask her, because the whole process of dating would involve getting-to-know-her-better.

Whatever way, the next thing you should do is tell her that you like her. Wait until you’re alone with her or set it up somehow. Otherwise, it’ll either take a long time or it will never happen. ... See all content Hide content

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Philippine girls 4 months, 1 week ago on Wordpress

Most girls, especially Asian girls are waiting for men to ask them out first. So men should do the first move to resurrect the exciting dating experience. By doing so, you can level up your relationship stage from being friends to a romantic lovers.

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Fred2 4 months, 2 weeks ago on Wordpress

Marriage:

Have you seen the legal and social climate for marriage? Seriously?

Dating:

There are two sides to dating. Guys may have to “man up” but women have their path to tread too.

And having started to date again, all I can say is that it’s not just the guys that are the issue. How about some general manners like “thanks for the nice dinner and X” and perhaps a kiss on the cheek. Hey, perhaps even a second date to see if perhaps candidate No. 1 was a little nervous/stiff/out of sorts/ on Date 1? ... See all content Hide content

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MF_Greatest 4 months, 4 weeks ago on Twitter

This couldn't have been more well-timed: http://bit.ly/t9Y8H

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DAN 5 months, 2 weeks ago on Wordpress

For me what this comes down to is what Men really want from women is intimacy.

Intimacy as a best Friend this is the start. And a woman saying you’re friends isn’t enough. I imagine friends will not even be brought up; it will be a given. I hope. I never have experienced the progression to the intimacy and the romance but it seems logical. Of course your friends, but more and more friends further and further away from everyone else, secret intimate friends.

Damn, Thats what I want. I never can pull it off; once they see you as a friend your stuck in the woman’s limited idea of what that means.

Friendship is in reality a love, and even as great a love as Eros(romantic love)

CS Lewis.

Also see The Four Loves the top of page 73 pretty much sums up my recent experience. Damn. ... See all content Hide content

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