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JulianRamirez 3 months ago on Twitter

@WWLoriHC Being able to give a good bro hug is a good life skill in my book. Making this article&video required reading: http://bit.ly/eoUtF

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cktully 5 months, 2 weeks ago on Twitter

@womanistmusings The how of the American man hug http://bit.ly/ADWUS

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Goodbye Friends & Family; Hello Books & Bags « A Grad Student's Blog 6 months ago on Wordpress

[...] each other the casual everyday “Cya.”  Maybe we slapped hands or had one of those man hugs that guys give to each other so it doesn’t look to effeminate.  I gave my female friends the [...]

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altvirtual 7 months, 1 week ago on Twitter

Man hug How to ?? LMAO http://bit.ly/ADWUS

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Tim 7 months, 2 weeks ago on Wordpress

Why would hugging a man in any fashion make you less manly? You’re still male. (and the Ummmm…no is my fave)

When I was a kid, and someone said ‘boys don’t do (whatever)’, I would reply: ‘I’m a boy. I do it. Therefore, boys do it.’ I haven’t changed my view on that…

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Christopher 8 months, 2 weeks ago on Wordpress

I think we are thinking waaay to much into this, what is otherwise simply a funny post that describes a lot of guys. But if we are going to take this seriously, it just shows how insecure we have raised our boys to be about their masculinity and how we have come to sexualize suff that shouldn’t be that way. Like how kids in school don’t take showers anymore (including my generation)–it’s seen I guess as this sexual thing or something, and so they just sweat and smell bad the rest of the day (I’m a teacher)

And for the slams on the Victorians, photographic and literary evidence of the period suggest that men often had very close friendships and weren’t shy in their displays of affection or somehow afraid of each other’s bodies like so many are today. Because society was so gender-segregated (outside of the home), male bonding wasn’t an issue–it was how things were done. It wasn’t until after WWII that for some reason I still have figure out, that men became more insecure about their masculinity and I guess homophobic and stopped hugging as much, etc.; perhaps the increased talk about homosexuality by then and how Freud turned it from a behavior into an identity is part of the mindset shift in how guys started to relate to one another in public. But it seems like the current younger generation of men (at least where I live) are much more affectionate w/each other than even when I grew up (in the 1980s), and they don’t seem to stess out and overthink this stuff as much. ... See all content Hide content

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Chrys 10 months, 1 week ago on Wordpress

@Russell: HAHAHA! I’m 6′8″ so I do that regularly too!

AND: Come on, people, lighten up! These aren’t “the Rules”. But seriously, though. I don’t have an 8 pack. Harley isn’t about to recruit me for their next tricked out chrome machine. I’m thin but with a noticeable beer gut (and 6′8″, it can be comical). But a man hug feels like a hug from a MAN! And when you hug a woman, you demure in a chivalrous way. And then there’s the other aspect: I don’t want a man’s body pressed against mine. Sorry. BUT, the fact is, if you hug – no matter how you do it, SOMEONE will have something to complain about……. And that goes with the territory. It’s like the handshake. Some men pull away and shake their hand with an “ow”. Some men grip harder. I enjoy that. You learn a lot from a handshake – and a hug is an extended handshake – it says “look, I don’t have a gun tucked in my back belt ready to blast, but I don’t have one in my coat pocket either.”

Remember, in the olden times – which means history before the modern age of paranoia – a man always carried some kind of weapon. If you were talking to someone and they reached into the inner breast pocket of their coat, you would have a moment. – many policeman still do. When you man hug, you know that the weapon is not ready for surprise slinging (real men wore their weapons out in the open) in a cowardly Judas-like move. Many a great man died due to such betrayals…

I find that I get along more with men that adjust their grip tighter when I grip tight. (But, a gentleman *always* lets go when he notices pain in his shakees eye.)

I did enjoy the “I guess I’m different” comment. I *know* I’m different, and I think a real man can accept the uniqueness of other men. BUT, under all that, we are still MEN. It was, for me, as I said in another comment, nearly instinctual.

(I should state for the record, that the problem these days re:weapons is that we suffer from a preponderance of frightened cowards that pretend to be men soley because they have muscles and hence at least some power.) ... See all content Hide content

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Chrys 10 months, 1 week ago on Wordpress

I think the so-called “American Man Hug” is instinctual. I live in India right now and I have a couple of close friends and the AMH is standard greeting procedure! (And I did NOT teach them.) The main difference is that firm handshake begins with a slap (then again, I prefer to hear my handshakes, but it’s much louder with friends, not gentlemen you are not yet acquainted with even though my hand is still placed in theirs with a bit of gusto and swagger). Even people I consider friends but not close enough, get the slap to the hand along with the firm handshake. And speaking of handshakes, even when a man has wet or sweaty hands he should still have enough confidence in his greeting to not react with a limp-wristed finger shake. I have no problems wiping my hand on my pants or shirt first just in case. I note that it usually gets an appreciative chuckle…

Anyway, the point is: “American” man-hug is probably a bit nationalistic. Even a two-armed man-hug utilizes the back-slap. It’s an essential accoutrement.

OH, and one thing to add, almost every time I have done a man-hug, there has also been a right shoulder bump. ... See all content Hide content

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The Best of Art of Manliness 2008 | The Art of Manliness 11 months, 1 week ago on Wordpress

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