By: Will Holmes

tammiehu11bd 2 months, 2 weeks ago on Twitter

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Zygarch 3 months ago on Wordpress

@The Oleus,

re: “If you are truly a man…”

How ’bout, “If you are at all comfortable in your own skin…” or “If you have a shred of self-possession…”?

This has nothing to do with gender, but everything to do with not letting others cross your inalienable boundaries!

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noemil78 3 months, 1 week ago on Twitter

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The Oleus 3 months, 1 week ago on Wordpress

I don’t see why one should be so concerned about what one’s acquaintances or fellow party goers think of him, especially when the time to end an evening comes. If you are truly a man, this won’t bother you at all, and you won’t feel the need to stay and make excuses. Simply stand, look your host in the eye and tell them that you must leave, shake hands, and don’t be shy about leaving a little rubber on the road surface as you leave. ... See all content Hide content

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Tyler 3 months, 1 week ago on Wordpress

Ok, but how do you get someone else to leave your place just as charmingly? Some people linger, and it isn’t very polite to just throw them out. What about the doorway talker?

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Hank X 3 months, 2 weeks ago on Wordpress

I find it awkward to be the first to leave. I keep my eye out for the first person to exit, then go together. It feels more comfortable.

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Fingersoup 3 months, 2 weeks ago on Wordpress

Not bad for a generic article, but there are SEVERAL different rooms a man will exit, and I feel each requires a different approach. I think a manly article on saying goodbye is in order….

In close family settings, it never hurts to “make your rounds” and say goodbye to people or family groups individually. Handshakes and hugs all around, then exit.

In dinner parties , etc… Announce your leaving, say goodbye to the friends and people you have been dining/talking to. Stop by at least a few people whom you’ve enjoyed company with to let them know you’re going, and then finally thank the host, and compliment them on the lovely evening/meal/etc… that you have enjoyed. If the host is busy with a roomful of other people, be unobtrusive, quick, and let yourself out. If the room was already thinning, then the host may wish to escort you out – Let them.

Formal events for honoured guests – if you are an attendee, it is often rude to leave before the honoured guest leaves. This is typical in military events, but also applies to Civilian life as well. Know your room. Typically, the host will either be looking after the honoured guest, or ensuring the smooth running of the rest of the party. It is important, that if you leave before the honoured guest, that you congratulate the guest before leaving – after all, you are there for them, not for you. In lieu of the guest, thank the host for inviting you.

If you are the honoured guest at a formal event – once again, know your room. If the people honouring you are close friends and colleagues, then stay as long as you like. obviously, stay as long as any ceremonies require. in more relaxed situations, If the number of people honouring you is too large to make it a personal event (Large award ceremony), A position of authority is involved (You’re the boss), or has combined significance with another event (ie: After-party) then ducking out early from this type event is a good idea. This will prevent guest resentment (They want to go home), as well as ruin a party for a shared celebration (You can’t really party if the boss is watching). Be understanding of people who have to leave early on your momentous occasion – if they didn’t respect you in some way, then they wouldn’t have shown up. On your way out, thank anyone involved in helping you with your achievement. Thank the host and have them escort you out.

I guess when it really comes down to it – the “Know your room” rule is the best way to judge how and when to say goodbye.

And it also goes without saying – NEVER party so hard that you wear out your welcome, or force yourself into the care of another because you overdid it. If you haven’t made arrangements to stay the night ahead of time, then don’t get so drunk that you can’t drive home or call a cab. NOBODY likes a surprise house guest. ... See all content Hide content

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billhosler 3 months, 2 weeks ago on Twitter

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Chris Cruz 3 months, 2 weeks ago on Wordpress

I need help with this. Usually I try to exit under the radar without people noticing. After the food is finished, conversations get stale, jokes are corny, I start to look for a quick exit. Once people start migrating circles I make my way to the door and say bye only to the people I’m really close with and the people on the way to the door.

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Mack Hall 3 months, 2 weeks ago on Wordpress

I should think that when the topic is two Japanese cars, running from the room screaming would be manly enough.

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jnjbrewer 3 months, 2 weeks ago on Twitter

Useful pastoral advice here. "How to exit a room like a man." http://bit.ly/vKNuF

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Stormbringer 3 months, 2 weeks ago on Wordpress

Stand up. Shake hands and say thanks. When they get obnoxious and insist on a reason that you’re leaving, say, “Frankly, I don’t think farts have lumps”. Then make your retreat.

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theanand 3 months, 2 weeks ago on Twitter

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Bob Iger 3 months, 2 weeks ago on Wordpress

Nice article, but I’m not agreeing at all with the “European dude” comment. I’m European myself and there are huge differences between individual countries when it comes to greeting people. Please do not stereotype us Europeans, it’s very offensive to some.

I can assure you that if you kiss a German, a Belgian or Norwegian man on the cheek when you leave, you will at the very least cause some very awkward moments. Most of the time, it’s only Spanish, Italian or Greek men (as far as I’m aware, correct me if I’m wrong) who are accustomed to kissing eachother on the cheek. ... See all content Hide content

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Steve 3 months, 2 weeks ago on Wordpress

@ James!,

Classic Scooby Doo exit. Works every time!

As for saying goodbye to everyone, I’ve always had good luck with this maneuver: on the way out, pause, face as many guests as possible, wave your hand, and say “Goodnight, all! It was a pleasure meeting/seeing/spending time with you!” Pause for goodbyes/applause/adulation/roses/undergarments, and walk to the door with the host. During this walk, thank the host for having you over, make the aforementioned compliment of the pumpkin pie, give a firm hand shake, and exit stage left. ... See all content Hide content

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adingstad 3 months, 2 weeks ago on Twitter

Den viktige sosiale kunsten å forlate et rom som en mann:

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Brett McKay 3 months, 2 weeks ago on Wordpress

@Bruno-

I was thinking of the French tradition of kissing friends and family on the cheek. “European dude” was perhaps too broad.

@Aaron-

I think if directly asked for an excuse than it’s okay to give one. A polite host will never ask, but then politeness is in short supply these days.

@Tman-

The door wave or the directly at the table goodbye are the only options I personally know of. You should only say direct at the table goodbyes to those people with whom you’ve conversed during the night. Of course if your good friends are there and you simply never got a chance to talk to them that night, it’s good to say goodbye to them too.

But directly at the table goodbyes aren’t appropriate if they’re going to be disruptive and out of place. Also, while it’s true that a confident goodbye can help other people leave as well, if a man is leaving a function early, it’s best to be very discreet about your exit, as you may cause a whole slew of people to leave prematurely as they follow your lead. ... See all content Hide content

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Mike 3 months, 2 weeks ago on Wordpress

The “having a friend call you in the middle” is usually reserved for blind dates, so that if it turns out to be a flop the guy can have an easy out, or if it’s good they just don’t answer the phone. Hm that could be a good one if it isn’t done yet, “How to go on a blind date like a Man.”

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Tman 3 months, 2 weeks ago on Wordpress

I would love to see a part two of this artcle. Last nights dinner party was three tables with 4 couples. Dinner, dessert and then coffee. At the time to go, how do you extend good byes to the other tables? Seems like standing at the door and saying see-ya isn’t appropriate. So is there a better way than saying good bye at your table then walking over to the other tables? I’d like to hear your thoughts. Finally, another observation is that many follow the lead of the fist departer. By being the first one to door with skill and class, others will follow (the leader-you) and will feel grateful to you. ... See all content Hide content

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P 3 months, 2 weeks ago on Wordpress

Just how Don Draper would have done it!

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Bruno Afonso 3 months, 2 weeks ago on Wordpress

Great article.

However, this one puzzled me:

“If appropriate, offer a man hug or kiss on the cheek if it’s a lady or a European dude.”

Being an “European dude” myself, I’m just wondering what kind of idea do you have of us Europeans, there in the New World, to make such a statement =D

Honestly, I am just curious. There’s no criticism here =)

Care to explain, Brett?

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Michael 3 months, 2 weeks ago on Wordpress

I think I like Will’s idea the best. (Heh.)

This party one is exiting from seems a more, what is the word…grown-up party than many guys using the Intertubes might be used to. Would the rules change for a kegger? Would it be easier (”just look sick, everyone will clear a path”) or more difficult (”avoid the gauntlet of beer bongs and Greco-Roman wrestling challenges”)? More seriously, many parties I attend have a reasonable number of friends between myself at the door, most of whom won’t abide me walking right by them on my way out. I don’t see any way to avoid this dilemma other than performing the “reverse receiving line,” and shaking hands/hugging with each one (while still being firm and purposeful re: exiting).

And @Justin: my girlfriend uses that line too, and to tell the truth it’s getting old for me as well. ... See all content Hide content

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Eric 3 months, 2 weeks ago on Wordpress

I’m almost positive that Mr. Holmes is joking…I hope, lol. Great article, in fact, I didn’t even realize I made a lot of the mistakes pointed out by the writer, Thank you.

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Justin Lane 3 months, 2 weeks ago on Wordpress

All I have to say is the line about “make like a baby and head out” is one I use on my wife all the time, and she hates it. That’s about all I got from this article. Couldn’t pay attention anymore.

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prwood 3 months, 2 weeks ago on Twitter

Never realized that leaving the room was such an art form: http://bit.ly/11cWk3 #fb

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