Q&A: How to Manifest ‘Him or Someone Better’?

Wow. Jeanette, you know that I needed this or you wouldn’t have sent me the link today! In the same situation, seeing my “dating partner” for 2.5 years now, met at an AWFUL time for her (lost job, father dying) and she told me on day one “I don’t do relationships well”.

The good is off the charts, the bad seems insurmountable. I try to stay open to all possibilities , her or someone else.

But the “pour all the loving energy in yourself for a while and the Universe will know you are ready…” from Carol was a swift kick in the pants. I don’t do this. I pour it all into this relationship.

So! Off to try something new.

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4 months ago by Kelly on Wordpress

Hi Kiki & All,

I was in a similar situation years ago. He was a soul mate and it was external circumstances that kept us apart and it was agonizing.

How I got turned around and manifested my husband was this (if it helps)…

I realized that there is a difference between a soul mate and a soul mate who is a partner. Just because they are a soul mate doesn’t mean they are a partner. I wanted a partner. He obviously wasn’t it because he couldn’t or wouldn’t go there with me.

I realized that dating and dealing with men was such a problematic area of my life and had been for 15 years that I realized I would rather be single because I was happier when I wasn’t in a Romeo-Juliet agony story. And I thought “What’s wrong with being single for my whole life if I’m happy, isn’t happy the point?” and I said OK to that.

I quit my day job, cashed in my 401k and committed myself to a passion/career I felt completely at Purpose with. I was totally fulfilled in it.

Then I turned around and there was this guy… and I didn’t want to date him because I was too busy doing my own thing. But the Universe pulled out the stops to get us to date (that’s another story) and 6 years and two kids later I am still madly in love with him, my husband.

And all of this happened before I knew about Law of Attraction.

So if it helps, I offer my story to you, with the tools about the soul mate vs. soul mate partner, just dropping the relationship stick (as Abraham may say) if it’s too messy for you and just aiming for happy, and getting yourself completely in tune with what makes you feel completely connected to your Purpose, whatever that is.

Personally, I am not sure I could have manifested a better guy while still in the woes of that star-crossed relationship. Instead of trying for another relationship – in retrospect – I chose myself instead. And ended up married…

…because the Universe knows what you want. The only reason you have to keep repeating it is for you.

HUGS to you all going through this because I remember how much it hurt. So be easy on yourself. You love deeply and you feel deeply and you have big hearts. You are so beautiful. ... See all content Hide content

4 months ago by Alora on Wordpress

Hi Everyone

Hope you are all having good weeks. I came across this quote which is helping me (in addition to all your loving and helpful advice):

“Everything is ok in the end. If it’s not ok, it’s not the end.” – Unknown

Thought it might be useful.

Love Kiki

4 months ago by Kiki on Wordpress

Kiki, just stop trying so hard. Let yourself feel the pain, be sad for as long as you need to, cry for as long as you need to and soothe yourself like you would for a close friend. Tell yourself the words you’d tell them, be nice and gentle, be caring.

You’re hurt, that’s your reality for now, accept it. Things will improve bit by bit and you will be guided toward Juan …or someone else but that’s not the point now. For now, just be patient with yourself, do nice things for Kiki, take care of her and if sometimes it gets too hard…so be it. It’s ok. This too shall pass. Hang in there. I know that some hours can be awful but it gets better, I promise, it does. Been there, done that. And feel the love you have for Juan with all your soul, love is really the greatest energy, it will heal you.

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4 months, 1 week ago by sonia on Wordpress

Hi Everyone

Thank you again for all of your support, love and wisdom. There are so many ideas and examples I can use here. A few of them I’m not ready for as you’ll see by what I write below, but please know that I will take your advice and use what feels good for me.

I love Juan. Doesn’t matter what list he measures up to and whether or not he’s doing what I want him to. Or whether he is the ‘easier option’ etc. I love him. And natrualy I want to be with him. I really do. That’s just how I feel. I know it doesn’t make sense. I know he’s not perfect. I know he is not the easy option. I know. Doesn’t change how I feel, though I wish it would.

However, I also know that I can’t control or own anyone else. . .and I wouldn’t want to.

I love Juan but I don’t need him.

I just need to release this resistance so I can feel better. That’s what I really need. I want to find my own alignment, really.

But it seems like I am fighting a losing battle in this regard.

Incidentally, I attracted information about LOA before I attracted Juan. I then used the LOA information I came across to attract Juan. And, he was beyond my wildest dreams of what a man and a love connection could be. Still is.

So why isn’t he here? Why did I lose what I attracted? Can I un-lose it?

And, with other areas of my life, why can’t I shake whatever resistance it is that is keeping me apart from my Vortex?

I desire a family sooner than later and so I would like to meet Someone New if Juan is not going to meet me halfway. I’m trying to let go of hoping he’ll come back. I’m trying to make space in my heart and life for someone else. I’ve even tried dating again but it seems that now I know about energy alignment, if my energy is even just a little off, it manifests HORRIBLY for me.

So, what gives? I am doing my BEST and it just doesn’t seem to be good enough. For all the energy I’m putting in, I don’t see any imporvements or twinkles of hope manifesting in my life. I am sincerely trying to feel better but I don’t see anything for all the good energy I am pouring into myself and my life. And, I’m actually not doing this to get stuff. I really just want to feel good. But, day in day out, I am finding myself losing the plot. I’ll be feeling great until the pain of the Juan situation will stab me in the heart from nowhere.

So why am I stuck? And how do I un-stick so that I can let whatever is good that I’ve created between Juan and I or Somone Better to flow to me???? (Am I even allowed to want him, specifically?). It’s not just Juan I seem to be holding away from me. It’s money, health, my writing talents.

I’m just at my wits’ end. But I am encouraged that I have managed to attract people, advice and support of your calibre into my experience. I’m taking it as a sign that things are improving in my vibration. I hope that’s true!

Thanks once again.

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4 months, 1 week ago by Kiki on Wordpress

Oh boy – what can I say that’s not already been said.

I don’t like lists of what I want in a man. All the men in my life have come at the right time in order for me to progress on. I always just ask for the right man for me. My current man is not a partner – he’s not long term – but I accept that he is in my life for a reason and is a stepping stone to the next. He is right now, the right man for me. Though having said that, I’m changing at the mo and am looking for something more…and guess what, he’s not been about so much and it all feels just fine as I know that there will be a replacement. I totally trust that the next bloke along will be right for me – he will suit my circumstances at the time. And it might just be that he’ll suit my circumstances for the rest of my life. And if not – NEXT !

Kiki – I’d say your feelings at the mo is pobably a major link of us all here. How many people fall upon LOA to win back a love or similar ? There’s so much advice and love here for you. My only thing to add is – feel your way through – whatever the outcome – you’ll get there. ... See all content Hide content

4 months, 1 week ago by MissyB on Wordpress

Hi Everyone

WOW. I am so touched by and grateful for your help and advice. I’m going to take some time right now and read through each of your posts.

But first I wanted to reassure you all that I’m NOT suicidal. Perhaps a bit dramatic in my wording, but not at that point. Thank you for your concern but I really don’t want anyone to worry about me in any way, let alone that way.

I will be back soon with some follow up comments, replies and questions. I thank you all for responding to this post and helping me so much and I thank Jeanette most of all for posting my question.

Lots of love and gratitude,

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4 months, 1 week ago by Kiki on Wordpress

Kiki,

My heart is swelling for you right now. I too have been in a situation like yours off and on for almost three years now. The pain is real and sad and confusing all at the same time. But you will come through this a little each and everyday. What I most want to share with you and what I feel that my lesson was in all of the in’s and out’s of my on again off again relationship was that I was NOT loving myself. And that the relationship was mirroring back to me that I needed to love me the way that I was loving my guy. That is what I am now doing finding ways to love myself just a little more each and everyday. A practice that I learned from Jeanette was to simply write down on a piece of paper…I love myself over and over. Boy was that hard to do but I did it just continuing to write I love myself. And that one little practiced opened huge doors to loving myself. I highly recommend Jeanettes…The Art of Self-Love.

Hope this helps. Hugs….

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4 months, 1 week ago by EngagingtheMagic on Wordpress

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